I don't get it. I want to get it, so please elaborate or explain further. P.S. LOVE the link you posted from WHOLESOME WORDS. What a great sight! Eric and I enjoyed reading the Quotes & Bios...Taylor, Meuller, etc.
I needed this one. I am always so concerned about what others are thinking and making sure everything is "just right" that I forget that maybe people just want to be with me and like me for ME. A true friend that is honest and open vs a sort-of friend that is perfect and unapproachable. What a concept...
Take an extra drive to VA next time you're in PA. Come stay at my house. Trust me, you won't see any perfection here! I won't even clean before you come... I promise! Nor would I expect you to do so before coming to your house. I read in a book once, "The biggest disservice we moms do to one another is to clean before each other visits." Ever since then I don't even bother. It was hard at first, but now it hardly phases me. Nor does it phase my visitor. I used to clean and perfect my house and family just before hosting Bible study. But I had to get something for a friend. She followed me into my bedroom and sighed with relief, "Ahhhhh! I was starting to worry about having you over to my house, but now I don't feel so bad!" That's because when we had Bible Study, all the mess was dumped into my room, along with its usual state. LOL! I know, cleaning is just a small portion. I have a hard time with not producing perfectly behaved children and being embarassed about it. Yep. Hugs to you!
In my life it seems that something's always got to give: if I spend time with my kids, the house gets messy. If I focus on laundry, I never seem to get a decent meal on the table, but you? It seems you always have it together, whether it's reaching the perfect weight, keeping a perfect house, having perfectly dressed children, serving a perfect dinner on a perfectly set table, or creating the perfect weekly routine and perfectly adhering to it. To top it off, you have a husband that simply worships the ground you walk on.
For as long as I've known you, you've always been more likely to come across as "perfect" than anyone else I know. This can be intimidating to me-and I am guessing to others as well. I think that sometimes it's easier, being somewhat removed, to view others as "perfect" and therefore assume that they only want "perfection" from their friendships. My inside-out pride sets me up for isolation when I begin to compare, pick apart every imperfection I have, and avoiding anyone who might by comparison bring out those failures.
I'm glad that, to a large extent, I was able to overcome my fears to enjoy such a precious friendship with you. I know I've got a long way to go when it comes to overcoming my pride and learning about God's design for friendship.
You've said so much with just a few words here and have reminded me that even the "perfect" people in our lives need friendship... and even the people in the world who "have it all together" need Jesus.
Huh? anyway, know what Angela is talking about...i've read the same thing and how it makes other moms...i don't know something about being real... or something-don't exactly remember. but i've been trying to understand this post for two days now. are you talking about soomeone specific? are you being general? what's this post about?
I don't get it. I want to get it, so please elaborate or explain further.
ReplyDeleteP.S. LOVE the link you posted from WHOLESOME WORDS. What a great sight!
Eric and I enjoyed reading the Quotes & Bios...Taylor, Meuller, etc.
I needed this one. I am always so concerned about what others are thinking and making sure everything is "just right" that I forget that maybe people just want to be with me and like me for ME. A true friend that is honest and open vs a sort-of friend that is perfect and unapproachable.
ReplyDeleteWhat a concept...
Take an extra drive to VA next time you're in PA. Come stay at my house. Trust me, you won't see any perfection here! I won't even clean before you come... I promise! Nor would I expect you to do so before coming to your house.
ReplyDeleteI read in a book once, "The biggest disservice we moms do to one another is to clean before each other visits." Ever since then I don't even bother. It was hard at first, but now it hardly phases me. Nor does it phase my visitor. I used to clean and perfect my house and family just before hosting Bible study. But I had to get something for a friend. She followed me into my bedroom and sighed with relief, "Ahhhhh! I was starting to worry about having you over to my house, but now I don't feel so bad!" That's because when we had Bible Study, all the mess was dumped into my room, along with its usual state. LOL!
I know, cleaning is just a small portion. I have a hard time with not producing perfectly behaved children and being embarassed about it. Yep.
Hugs to you!
In my life it seems that something's always got to give: if I spend time with my kids, the house gets messy. If I focus on laundry, I never seem to get a decent meal on the table, but you? It seems you always have it together, whether it's reaching the perfect weight, keeping a perfect house, having perfectly dressed children, serving a perfect dinner on a perfectly set table, or creating the perfect weekly routine and perfectly adhering to it. To top it off, you have a husband that simply worships the ground you walk on.
ReplyDeleteFor as long as I've known you, you've always been more likely to come across as "perfect" than anyone else I know. This can be intimidating to me-and I am guessing to others as well. I think that sometimes it's easier, being somewhat removed, to view others as "perfect" and therefore assume that they only want "perfection" from their friendships. My inside-out pride sets me up for isolation when I begin to compare, pick apart every imperfection I have, and avoiding anyone who might by comparison bring out those failures.
I'm glad that, to a large extent, I was able to overcome my fears to enjoy such a precious friendship with you. I know I've got a long way to go when it comes to overcoming my pride and learning about God's design for friendship.
You've said so much with just a few words here and have reminded me that even the "perfect" people in our lives need friendship... and even the people in the world who "have it all together" need Jesus.
Love you...
Huh? anyway, know what Angela is talking about...i've read the same thing and how it makes other moms...i don't know something about being real... or something-don't exactly remember. but i've been trying to understand this post for two days now. are you talking about soomeone specific? are you being general? what's this post about?
ReplyDelete