I knew he was tired. I knew he didn't have a hungry belly or a dirty diaper. I knew he just wanted to be with me. And as much as I love being with him, a pinched nerve in my neck that pretty much wrecked last weekend, and day after day of waking up rather exhausted from sharing my bed for half the night with him, I needed him to sleep--and on his own.
After an hour of on and off crying (more on than off), he succumbed to exhaustion--as did his mother.
Of course, I can't decide now whether I actually feel better today than if I'd just shared the bed from 2am on with Jack. Due to my 2-hour stint in the middle of the night (plus another nursing at 5:45am, which still counts as "night" in my opinion!) following two previous bad nights, I have a splitting headache, and the scratchy throat I've been doing my best to hold at bay is developing into something more like a cough.
I realize that the goal in all of this is that eventually Jack will sleep well in his bed and I will sleep well in mine. But doesn't everyone know to refrain from using words like eventually with a stay-at-home-mom-to-toddlers-and-babies?
I "loved" it while pregnant with Seth, my mom would encourage me regarding Cassie, "It won't be this way forever. Eventually she'll _______ and it'll get easier." HA! All I could think about whas that, yeah, eventually Cassie will ________, and by the time she does, I'll be at it again with the next baby. And by the time the next baby does _______ I'll be at it again with the next baby. So, "eventually" just might mean 10 years from now!
ReplyDeleteI don't think I'm helping you much with this comment!
I'm only one month into the newborn phase, but I sympathize already...Bethany did the same thing last night for a couple hours...though, thankfully, it was from 10-midnight, not in the middle of the night
ReplyDeleteI understand but she is an almost 8month old who wants to be with me all the time. She sleeps like an angel in our bed and the only problem I have with that is that people (my mom and brother-in-law and sometimes dad and sisters)tell me that I will turn out like some people we know whose kids just got out of their bed and they are like 6-7 maybe a little older. So that is my problem with it, also I get scared of rolling over on her. Although I don't move much in bed. Sometimes I wake up and I think her head is under the covers, but its not. Then I try to find her in our bed and she turns up in her crib fast asleep, never knowing how she got there. Then there was once when I woke up Hayla in arms with her head on the edge of the bed. I don't know how that one happened but again GOD WAS GRACIOUS and made it that I didn't drop her on her head! Sheesh these times can be scary! So yeah always fun with babies. Well I will have to take a trip to P&C to see if they have that icecream lol. Was it really good? Prbably, how can you go wrong with Starbucks. There was once when I didn't like it and that was at a rest stop! God Bless! Hey what is your e-mail address? I have a question I wanna ask you but don't want the world to see!
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A few nights of suffering is so much more appealing than struggling with a child that can't sleep through the night even years later. It is much less painful for mommy and baby to get it over with quickly. Stick to your guns, girl!
ReplyDeleteTry to nick it in the butt NOW. Jamie slept with me until she was like 10 or 11 maybe even later ( Sorry Jamie) but its the truth... she would always say she likes my smell. I do take a bath. so I'm not sure what that really meant.
ReplyDeleteGood Luck with the sleeping, I still don't sleep threw the night, I think I was up so much when they were small that I can't sleep now.... you take care and get some sleep
Maybe you could get earplugs for the whole family!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure that Jackson will learn quickly. He's got smart genes!
lois tries to do the same thing and about once to two times a week to sleep with me. it is very exhausting for all of us. i totally know how you feel. . its not like it is so much more fun to sleep with us. i sleep with ear plugs because of rich's snoriung and lois's attempts to wear me down. i still do not sleep through the night and i can hear her still but it is muffled so it doesn't bether me too too much.. take comfort in knowing i am probably up at the same time tending to lois...
ReplyDeleteI only had a few times that Seth would be up for no reason. Now he gets up at like 6:30am because it is light out. I don't mind getting up early but that is too early for me. At 6:30 he sleeps with us til I get up at about 7:30am. I can't sleep if he is crying. Stephen can so sometimes I will go out on the couch so that I can sleep. That actually only happened twice. Seth is a good sleeper.
ReplyDeletefrom my own experience.. I didnt listen to what every one else said BABYS need security.. I have had four kiddoes breast feed them all .. and they all sleeped in my bed till they where on years old every one of them and just like breast feeding and wineing them off. I did the same for their beds. none of them liked their cribs but when I bought them all a big sized single bed and put them in it at the age off one my boys all took to it quickly.. My daughter is in her own bed.. big girl bed.. I think one has to remember as a parent to much of the world tried to tell you what is right and what is wrong.. I heard ppl tell me its not proper. To let my kids sleep in bed with my cause oh they will have a problem going into their own bed that was not the case its how you deal with it as a parent. I think it was much easier. to just flop over and breast feed and go right back to bed. Ya babys have diffrent schedules then ours but that is a baby.. I remember for my first son I would be up watching lassie at five am..rocking him in a chair .. my other when they fussed simple rocking in the chair even if it was at 2 am listening to worship music Praising God. ya their where many times I was tired and worn out but that is part of being a mom.. As my hub reminds me it wont last forever..
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oh and ps I never ever once let my baby cry them self to sleep .. Oh yes the world says its ok ya but your forgetting what that does to their lungs and throat it gets raspy children cry for a reason.. they cry for moms security at such a young age.. I think giving it to them is more important then doing what others say motherly instinked is more importand then the worlds view.. I also heard oh that spoiling your child .. from some one who was abuse.. no it wasnt spoiling it was meeting my childs needs of comfort and letting them no that mom is thier.. Their is a diffrence when i child is older and winning and manipilation. big diffrence.. I pray that you do what you feel is best for your baby.. GOD BLESS
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