For the past week Jackson has been waking up roughly 6-8 times a night. The longest stretch he's going is 2 hours; the shortest is 5 minutes. Prior to this, he was waking each night around 2am and then 4:30am to eat. He always went right back to bed/sleep.
At the beginning of these increased wakings and this awful sleeping, I was trying to let him cry through the seemingly unnecessary feedings, but for the first couple nights he would literally cry on and off (the "offs" were a minute long, maximum) for 2 hours until I finally gave in and retrieved him. For several nights I tried simply soothing him back to sleep, but I found that even though he'll fall asleep, he wakes up about 5-15 minutes later unless I nurse him.
My first thought was perhaps that he is teething again, but a week later I've yet to find even a single swollen gum, let alone the beginnings of a tooth coming in.
Then I thought that it's interesting how this poor sleeping coincides perfectly with his newfound mobility. Perhaps his increased need for nursing is because he's hungry due to burning lots more calories these days? I've begun nursing as often as he seems like he wants it to increase my supply, but it hasn't seemed to make much of a difference in his contentment. Three nights later, I'm just exhausted--and so is he!
I don't want to begin feeding him any foods for at least another month, and I'm confident that my body can meet his needs, if this is indeed the problem. That said, I'm not confident that I'm doing everything I can to make sure my body meets the demand as quickly as possible!
And, of course, the issue could be something altogether different that I've not yet thought of.
So I guess this question is posed to all mothers:
What might this be?--and what do I do?!?!
Lois has been doing the same thing. I've chocked it up to teething but i really am not too sure if she is. I've been a little concerned becasue lois sleeps through the night and is now waking up randomly through out the night and nursing for at least a half hour at a time. If i come across any info,, i'll send it along.
ReplyDeleteI'll be praying for you, jack, and family.
Ashlyn did the same thing. She slept through the night from 3 months old until she was 6 months. At 6 months, she suddenly started waking up again and I was back into the nightly feedings -ugh! I did nurse her each and every time she wanted to (some evenings and nights I would nurse every hour!). During the nights, I would often bring her into our bed to eat and then put her back in hers or leave her with us -varied all the time. My milk did increase very quickly (2-3 days?) and stayed where it was needed until she settled back into her 1-2x nightly feeding(s) that I ended at 13 mos. I did drink a ton of extra water -that helped. I know I didnt realize how much my milk had increased until after those frequent nursings were slowing again. She never had anything other than my milk until she was almost 6 months and that was only cereal. We never began any other "real" foods until she was 7 months. (And this was more because Daddy wanted to help more than because she needed it.)
ReplyDeleteOf course... each baby and each mother and each situation are different!!
Hi Brietta- I had a baby or two that seemed to want to eat all night or was it that the baby wanted to be WITH me all night! I could never figure it out. My solution was to have a clean area rug and a pillow in the nursery. I would put the baby to bed in a polar fleece hoodie and when he or she awoke I would lie down with the baby on the area rug, lie a cloth diaper under the baby's head (the pillow was for me:) We would both fall asleep nursing, when the baby woke, we'd switch sides. If the diaper was only wet, it waited til morning (hence the need for the hoodie to keep wet babe warm:) I actually learned to like the schedule, the baby nursed a lot less during the day and I got a lot more done! A lot of keeping sane in mothering (for me anyways) was going WITH the flow not trying to get the flow to go with me- if you know what I mean. For the cold nights, I used a space heater. God bless you as you sow in tears, the reaping with joy WILL come:)!
ReplyDeleteHow long does the baby go through the day without eating? If he goes longer stretches during the day without eating than at night, I would suggest he has "his days and nights mixed up." In that case, the solution is to gradually increase day-time feedings (encouraging him to eat even when he is not super hungry during the day). At the same time try to spread out his night-time feedings. The idea is to meet his caloric needs during the day so that he won't need them at night. This same thing hapened to me and this is what worked. Looking back, my problem was that it was too convenient to let my babies sleep during the day so that I could do my work and maybe catch a nap. And this tendency feeds a vicious cycle. I hope you find out what works for you soon!
ReplyDeleteBrietta,
ReplyDeleteAre you opposed to bringing him in bed with you? I found that my daughter wanted to touch me at night, even when she wasn't nursing. So allowing her to sleep in our bed after many nights of getting up to nurse worked wonderfully! We ended up buying a rail for along the side so I don't have to worry about her rolling off. She starts off in her own crib, and when she wakes one of us just scoops her up and plops her in bed with us. Then she nurses off and on for the rest of the night. This allows me to get more rest, and usually works great. The only downside to this solution is how we are going to stop.... but, we will handle that when the time comes. : )
ugh - i'm so sorry. life is never fun when mommy doesn't get enough sleep! i only have one but i nursed her exclusively until 9 months (of course, she was a preemie, but...). though, it seemed that every time she started a new mobile activity (crawling, walking) it seemed to affect her sleep habits a little. another thing that seemed to affect her nursing habits were "growth spurts" -- every few weeks, she would nurse like crazy, then go back to normal. i'll admit, around 10 months, i had wearied of the night feedings and realized it was more out of habit than need and let her cry. i hated every minute of those three days, but it was well worth it after that! you are certainly far more experienced than i, though, so i can only hope and pray it gets better for you and jack!
ReplyDeleteI think that both of mine have done this around the 6-7 month mark. It did seem to me that teeth weren't too far behind, but as you know we also started solids somewhere in the 7th month. I'm not sure how much this helped with hunger initially since they only eat about 5-10 spoon fulls at each feeding initially. They did grow out of it. Jocelyn eventually got over it when she was 9-10 months. I wouldn't nurse her until 4:30 (a preassigned time based on when she seemed to truly be hungry) before that time she was offered a cup of water. It only took two nights for her to start sleeping again... but, it doesn't sound like Jack is in the same spot. Let us know what you find!
ReplyDeleteOh, if it works for you, I'll plan on coming over after Aidan wakes from his morning nap (10ish) if that works for you.
ReplyDeleteWell, I say.... nurse him, whatever the reason. All too quickly this time will be gone, who will care about sleep? This is me... you will have to decide if you want to know why he is nursing. In my years of b'feeding, some times you could guess the reasons and sometimes not.
ReplyDeleteHe might be trying to fend off an infection. I attended a conference in KC on increased feedings, one was on preventing infection. We were challenged with tracking nursing habits... as best as we could... during the changing seasons. Our creator... God... made us very well..... Jackson's body could be trying to boost his own immune system.
Are there any new noises in the room? Is he too cold? Amanda needed to lay on a warm surface to sleep. This lasted about 2 months... around when she hit about... 3 months. We laid a heating pad on the bed... by accident one night... and she slept great! I started putting the heating pad on low, underneath the mattress pad, a heavy blanket, and then the crib sheet. Good to go.
Read some of the benefits to nursing on the link, and then pick a reason and then the solution. Mine would be, nurse the baby, as much as he wants. What is it going to hurt?!
http://www.lalecheleague.org/NB/NBbenefits.html
Hope this helps!
I always loved bringing the babes into bed when I could. If for some reason you cannot do that, I would try Mrs. Kinnen's idea. I always tended to go with the flow rather than against it as well. And concerns about terrible habits that linger too long are probably unnecessary. Chances are he will outgrow his need to be with you before he needs to head off for college, as they say. I've never yet had a healthy child fail to outgrow childhood ways! So my thought -- if he seems pretty insistent on needing to nurse, try to sleep while he eats -- that always worked best for me!
ReplyDeleteYup, NTC... I am sure you would recognize me if you saw me. You may know my brother-in-law, Adam.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice up there... Mom's advice is usually pretty solid.
Sweat dreams!
[I don't want to begin feeding him any foods for at least another month, and I'm confident that my body can meet his needs, if this is indeed the problem. That said, I'm not confident that I'm doing everything I can to make sure my body meets the demand as quickly as possible!]
ReplyDeleteWill you be more specific? I want you to know that I've been there and I will surely pray. That doesn't help your need for rest, but it often helps me to hear from someone who was there just a short time ago.
I think he is being a baby that may want more attention from you. Hayla is the same way. She feeds all night and that is why she sleeps with us. Plus I am too lazy to get up and down all night to feed her. He probably is hungry though too. I mean Hayla is one and she still feeds a lot in the night. He might need a cuddle partner. That is how Hayla sleeps best! So anyway. We found out that Hayla is a real name, cool huh?
ReplyDeleteHayla= Sweet
Mae= Bitter
We had no clue of this before choosing it, and also didn't know Hayla was a "REAL" name commonly used in Australia. But the meaning, "sweet," comes from a made-up language that is out there! WEIRD.
Andi
P.S. Hope it goes better soon!