Thursday, June 18, 2009

The growing babe update


I'm well over 22 weeks pregnant now. I like to think of this as the halfway mark, since usually a woman finds out she's pregnant about 18 weeks earlier (sometimes later, of course, which I can personally testify to, but usually between 4 and 5 weeks) and usually she delivers her baby about 18 weeks from now.

So far, things are going well. I can't complain about a whole lot. Sure, I'm exhausted beyond anything I've ever felt (honestly, I'm beginning to wonder just how low my iron levels were/are, because I have never felt as badly-- not even postpartum-- as I have this past month or so), I've started getting up at least once a night to use the bathroom again (so, basically, I got to sleep through the night for about 6 weeks out of the past, oh... 2 years), I still get heartburn from certain foods (like orange juice), and I'm not quite out of the Awkward Clothing Stage, but these are all "normal" things, really. Every time I want to cry about how wretched the iron pills make me feel or the fact that I don't like dealing with only owning 1 pair of maternity shorts and no maternity capris, I remind myself that I'm not on bedrest and that this baby is looking really healthy, and it all gets put into perspective.

I've gained about 6-9lbs so far (our unreliable scale here at home fluctuates a bit, depending on things like where exactly it's placed on the bathroom floor, and I haven't seen the doctor in 3 weeks). This is probably a lot to some of you, but it's only half-- at least-- of what I've usually gained at this point. It's also particularly low for me since most of my pregnancy weight gain typically takes place during my second trimester (for example, I gained 29lbs when pregnant with Aubrey and only 7 of those lbs were gained during my third trimester). While I honestly don't really care because I don't think the lower weight gain itself will make much of a difference in fetal weight, I can tell that the healthier eating is making a difference in how well my body is functioning-- even in spite of my iron deficiency-- and it's a good feeling to know that the baby isn't getting the junk from refined flours and sugars.

The only problem with the lower weight gain is that it's definitely played a huge part in extending the Awkward Clothing Stage I mentioned earlier.

Oh, and I really, really, really miss chocolate.

I think I already mentioned that I'm scheduled for a fetal echocardiogram with the pediatric cardiologists (the same group of doctors that Aubrey sees) on July 20th. Because I've given birth to a baby with congenital heart disease, I'm now considered at twice the risk for having another baby with congenital heart disease (up to 5-6% from 2-3%), so this sort of ultrasound with these specialists is now considered standard protocol for me. Assuming the fetal echocardiogram looks good, I will get bumped down from High Risk to Normal (for the duration of this pregnancy). How cool is that?!

Another thing that I'm really happy about is how well Aubrey's continued to nurse right through this pregnancy. She hasn't seemed a bit deterred by any changes that have taken place-- not even by the dramatically reduced supply. Several weeks ago, as I realized there were absolutely no indications of self-weaning, I started to panic at the idea of tandem nursing since she was so demanding when it came to nursing (as in, if she wanted to nurse but I wasn't available right. that. minute, she would follow me around the house, crying and hitting my legs until I finally catered to her) and I was starting to picture myself breastfeeding a newborn while she threw a fit at my feet. After discussing it with Daniel, however, I realized the problem wasn't nursing, but her attitude (what a revelation, huh?!). I've never before had to teach a child to expect anything less than On-Demand Nursing, but it seems to me that if she's old enough to throw a temper-tantrum about breastfeeding, she's old enough to understand and comply with, "You need to wait, Aubrey." We're still working on her response to such instruction (one can't expect an overnight change), but she's really improved a lot in that area and I now feel like continuing to breastfeed her even after the new baby arrives-- should that be what she needs/desires-- will work. And, quite honestly, the idea of her still getting the natural antibodies and immune builders that breastmilk offers through this coming winter really comforts me as a mom.

So, all in all, the halfway point finds me feeling very blessed.

And surprised that we're already here. Wow!


8 comments:

  1. What size are you in? Maybe I have something that will fit you? I know how awful it is to be frustrated by clothing. Maybe I can mail you something or look at our thrift stores here and find something for you! There are some great maternity racks at the Goodwills around here. And I think it is so great that you are considering tandem nursing. There are some books by La Leche League about it, I think, if you are interested. I was open to it with Kate, but she ended up weaning before that, and since she was almost three, that was fine with me! And 10lbs is nothing! I gained 50 with Kate and less with James but ended up weighing even more than I did at the end with Kate....Sarah Ovaska

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  2. I have to say that I am proud of you for sharing your thoughts on on-demand-nursing. There are few of us left and is it a breath of fresh air to hear someone else speak so highly of it. I love it! I can't imagine doing it any other way. It just makes sense. And although there are many people, whose opinions matter, that disagree, I keep finding myself more in love with my extended nursing sessions with my almost toddler. I planned/prepared myself for tandem nursing when I was pregnant with Samuel. My milk stopped coming when I was about 6 months along. After a week of weaning Abram, we were good to go. I was happy that it worked itself out but I must confess a part of me was disappointed. I wasn't ready for that time with Abram to end. Samuel is a nurser - not an eater. He still gets most, if not all, of his food supply from our cuddling times. He is a growing boy who has never been sick, at least nothing that required a Dr. visit or Tylenol. He has not even had a check up since he was 2 months (I should be imprisoned, I know!) And yet, I feel more confident in these seemingly rebellious actions. God does provide us with infinite wisdom, less we ask. He is so good.

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  3. @springtimeindiana - I have 2 pairs of gap maternity jeans that I bought through ebay last pregnancy that are size 2s, and they fit best right now. I have 1 pair of 4s that also look decent, but after 1 day of wear they are constantly falling down. The maternity shorts I own are smalls from motherhood and they are the "no panel" style-- they fit well.  The thing I keep looking for (and am amazed there aren't more of) are knit maternity clothing items, like knit skirts (I have 1 that's got a roll-over sort of waist so that you can wear it under or over your belly depending on where you're at in the pregnancy and what's more comfortable right then-- I LOVE that).  Anyway, I hate for you to mail stuff... but let me know if I get desperate!Also, I know about weighing more even with less weight gain.  It's just been in the last few weeks that I've gotten "behind" what I actually weighed at this point last pregnancy because I started out weighing 4lbs more.  Ah, the joys...

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  4. I could have bought you two huge bags full of adorable maternity clothes for about $20.
    I was looking for myself and I noticed that everything was drastically reduced for summer was xs/sm.
    I guess I assumed you were more than set.
    BUMMER!

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  5. I am in the awkward middle stage too! My belly is still to small for maternity clothes (at least any that I own) but to big for my regular clothes.Oh the weigh gaining thing. I'm freaking out a little b/c I have already gained 18lbs in 18 weeks! I don't remember gaining that much with Jericho at least not that quickly. Although, I did gain a total of 45+ thankfully I lost it all quickly. I thought my doc would say something at my last visit but he didn't. I guess I don't know what to think.....Eating healthy does make a huge difference in how you feel. I'm always so amazed. Hope you get some more energy back.Hey I've also been meaning to ask you about your pregnancy with Aubrey. I didn't realize you had complications. I knew she had heart problems (i didn't start reading till she was 6+ months old) Do they think that the SCH had to do with her having congenital heart disease or were they 2 totally separate things? At what point in the pregnancy did you have the SCH? Did they put you on bed rest right away?. Just wondering.I'm praying that your fetal echocardiogram ultrasound with the pediatric cardiologists is clear and there are no problems!Tarah

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  6. I have some capri's that are size small...if you would like to borrow them let me know I will pop them out in the mail to you!

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  7. Hi Brietta.
    I don't know if you remember meeting me, but I am a friend of Keila's that you met at the Marotta's when Aubrey was a baby (and I don't really expect you to remember, being that time of life for you).  Well anyway, I have been reading your blog lately (through Keila's) and had a suggestion with the iron thing.  I'm 32 weeks pregnant currently and famously iron deficient (have been for all 3 babies).  My OB recommended that I try Floradix iron+herb supplement this time rather than a normal iron supplement since it's easier to absorb and better on the rest of the system.  It's not exactly cheap, but for me it's worth it.  I just thought it might be something that you might want to try.  I take it in the morning, and then my normal vitamin in the evening.  You can find it at a health food/natural foods store.Melanie Falco

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  8. @Tarah - The SCHs I had were totally separate from her heart issues.  I had a "dating" u/s at 11 weeks and everything was fine.  3 days later, I woke up one night because I was bleeding TONS of red blood everywhere.  I assumed I was miscarrying, but a visit to the dr's the next day let us hear a good heartbeat.  The doc told me SCHs are normal  (20%) and not to worry, but 3 days later when the same thing happened, they had me get an u/s.  It showed a "large" SCH (much bigger than Aubrey was at that point) and I was put on pelvic rest and modified activity.  Eventually, after enough bleeding and the SCH doubling in size and then actually turning into 2 separate SCHs, I was put on modified bed rest, largely because of my struggles with anemia that made them very concerned about additional bleeding.  I was told after that 1st u/s that showed how big the SCH was that the pregnancy could go either way.  We feel so fortunate that, although the SCH persisted the entire pregnancy and never resolved on its own, it never caused any problems.  I was part of a yahoo group and made many friends who experienced difficulties due to their SCHs, and I have quite a spot in my heart for women who deal with them.All that to say, the SCH didn't even begin until about 5 weeks after Aubrey's heart was completely formed (that takes place between 4 and 6 weeks gestation, I believe).  And none of the 12+ u/s I had ever showed any heart abnormalities.  It wasn't until the last prenatal appointment when I said I hadn't felt the normal amount of movement that we discovered her heart issues.  But I do feel that the journey of the pregnancy was allowed by God specifically to grow my faith for the battles we faced and continue to face with Aubrey.

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